Can We Really Learn To Be More Assertive?

Assertive. It’s a term that is often thrown around willy-nilly when it comes to success and how to conduct yourself in the corporate world. However, it can also seem like quite an abstract concept. 

What does it mean to be assertive?

If you think about it, as babies we were assertive – crying when we needed things. Since then, you were probably taught not to express yourself in this way.

Can we learn to be more assertive?

Think about this:

  • Were you taught as a child to be careful in expressing your opinions and feelings?
  • Do you often feel like it’s selfish or rude to express your needs?
  • Do you struggle to find the communicative skills to express assertiveness in corporate or personal settings, or even feel anxious when you have to do so?
  • Do you find it difficult to gauge the appropriate behaviour in different situations?

All of these common tendencies have developed as a result of repressing our need to assert ourselves. It is an integral behaviour to human interaction that many of us are missing!

Luckily, it is a skill that is quite easily re-learned. Basically, assertiveness means being open and respecting the needs of yourself and others when you communicate. This means you must be willing to compromise, not just assume you will get what you want out of every situation. This also means knowing the difference between the words, body language, attitude and tone used when being assertive versus aggressive.

Learning assertiveness means knowing when to turn it on and when to switch it off. 

Learning assertiveness at its core is about being self-aware. You must acknowledge the need to be assertive in order to make changes in the way you conduct yourself and in how others see you.

Once you do this, you will most likely find that you will achieve better results in all aspects of your life, both in the workplace and at home. 

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